Domestic violence can take many forms, but its goal is always the same: Batterers want to control you through fear. They do this by regularly abusing you physically, sexually, psychologically and economically. Here are some forms of domestic violence you may have experienced and some behaviors that an abuser might display:
- Physical Abuse: Hitting, slapping, kicking, strangling (often referred to incorrectly as choking), pushing, punching, beating
- Verbal Abuse: Constant criticism, making humiliating remarks, not responding to what you are saying, mocking, name calling, yelling, swearing, interrupting, changing the subject
- Sexual Abuse: Forcing sex on an unwilling partner, demanding sexual acts that you do not want to perform, degrading treatment
- Isolation: Making it difficult for you to see friends and relatives, monitoring phone calls, reading your mail, controlling where you go, taking your car keys
- Coercion: Making you feel guilty, pushing you into decisions, sulking, manipulating children and other family members, always insisting on being right, making up impossible rules and punishing you for breaking them
- Harassment: Following or stalking, embarrassing you in public, constantly checking up on you, refusing to leave when asked
- Economic Control: Not paying bills, refusing to give you money, not letting you work, interfering with your job, refusing to work and support the family
- Threats and Intimidation: Threatening to harm you, the children, family members and pets, using physical size to intimidate, keeping weapons and threatening to use them
- Destruction of Property: Destroying furniture, punching walls, throwing things, and/or breaking things
- Self-destructive Behavior: Abusing drugs or alcohol, threatening self-harm or suicide, driving recklessly, deliberately doing things that will cause trouble.
For More Information on Domestic Violence or to get help, call or visit the Glendale Family Advocacy Center at (623) 930-3720 ~ 4600 W Glendale Ave., Glendale, AZ 85301 or click here for resources.